It sparked when Yarrow said this on Twitter:
Children who upload sexual content are usually already being sexually abused.
While I usually do not challenge VirPeds since it’s not like their main line is wrong (attraction is not an action), I did not want this infuriating sex-hating flippant remark about young sexuality to go unchallenged.
Yarrow the MAP challenged me to read articles on how pornography harms children.
(The articles Yarrow the MAP posted to me however did not provide any evidence to defend this flippant comment, for the record.)
This doesn’t really address the bigger issue that even sexual activity between minors is a criminal act.
If a child cannot consent to sexuality activity with others at any age because their prefrontal cortextes are too undeveloped until the age 25, then why did so called enlightened nations stop at 12 and 14 and 16 and 18 (they all can’t seem to agree!) for consent. By that logic, none of us should be having any sex at all until age 25 according to Yarrow. Anyone 25 and under are still going through brain changes. Ignore all sexual feelings, no touching until the body is complete!
Unfortunately this idea that we must keep the kids sexless as much as possible doesn’t seem to be doing us, or more importantly them, any favors. But Yarrow says while sexual education via pornography is bad, sexual education in general, likely in a classroom is good. Well let’s paint a picture of what Yarrow’s worldwide sexual education format looks like based on Yarrow’s tweets:
What Yarrow promotes is that children practice non-sexuality until they are of age to be mentally, physically, and emotionally ready at 18-25 (that age when the prefrontal cortex is finally complete. Because apparently that should be the determiner of when sexual decisions are mature to be made.)
For Yarrow, sure a child (age up to 17) can learn about sex in a classroom. Of course they are free to Masturbate but only alone. ANything else is sex and kids are too stupid for sex. And they can’t masturbate to porn of course. Sure the youth can fantasize about their friends and crushes, and even teachers. However, the youth can’t be too sure what they look like naked since an adult or child exposing their naked body to the youth is basically pornography. Oh and its non-consensual sex abuse to do so cause the youth is too stupid in the head to know any better. Any attempt for the youth to wish to do anything sexual means they have already been poisoned by sexual abuse.
For Yarrow the MAP, sure, fantasize kid, but don’t actually do it. No sex. No sexual contact. Yes, Yarrow demands youth to eek out a monk lifestyle of clean mind and chaste body who faps to no porn image of a sexual body outside of those in a health class textbook (where they make the penis and vagina as boring and bland as possible so no one is aroused). Yarrow wants every minor to fap themselves to non-arousal images in their head only until the ages of 18-25.
The writers of these youth/pornography articles all made the exact same accusations against porn so they will be addressed together in the Lines below but the articles’ conclusions were fascinating since they exposed themselves for what they really hate.
One article’s conclusion: Pediatricians and pediatric healthcare providers should understand the negative impact that widespread use of pornography is having on today’s children and their parents and how they can help stop this destructive influence on the family. (Destructive influence on the family. Where have we heard that before Hmmmmmmmm?)
Another article’s conclusion: We want to protect the innocence and purity of childhood for as long as possible. (Oh really? Gee, I wonder if they like pornography at all!)
Line: Porn is addicting. Children and teens are capable of developing compulsive sexual behaviors, which can lead to sexual addiction
Answer: Video games can be addicting. Television can be addicting. Junk food can be addicting. Sports can be addicting. Anything can be addicting. What are you talking about? Yeah no shit kids and children can develop compulsive sexual behaviors, they are sexual beings!
Line: Porn teaches violence to children
Answer: Porn is no more or less violent than anything else a youth finds themselves doing.
Instead of blaming real life factors such as home environment it blames porn for acting out violence. Remember when we first blamed the Dungeons & Dragons board games for violence. Video games for violence. Heavy metal music for violence that encouraged kids the KILL THE POPE. There is no difference here. How much porn is necessarily violent? How much violent porn have you seen? Did you choke out your mom when you saw a porn actress who consented and was paid to do it? Yes people like seeing some elements of violence in sex. FUCK ME HARDER and SHOVE IT IN ME and DRILL MY ASS can be interpreted as violence I guess. If your argument is adults are smarter because they know the violence isn’t real when watching a movie, then why are the kids dumber? Are you saying no one is telling them that what they are watching isn’t real.
Physical and verbal aggression is a turn on in the sexual realm, let’s not forget this or play stupid about it! It’s not all missionary or softcore saxophone sex that exists. All the shades on the spectrum are out there in digital form, moreso than ever actually. One writer made a great fuss that the top porn films had a lot of physical and verbal aggression. Yes, cause people fuck like animals! Imagine that!
And even then, its IS NOT A FOREGONE CONCLUSION THAT ALL YOUTH EVER SEE THIS KIND OF PORN OR WATCH IT. And frankly those that do are likely being stimulated by their own internal ancestral DNA forces since sex is a universal human thing!
Is it perhaps the problem because we have a “hands off” approach to porn that instead of adults teaching kids what porn is and showing it to them, the kids have to FIGURE IT OUT ON THEIR OWN.
So which came first? The ignorance or the neglect?
Line: Porn is anti-women. It shows aggression, attitudes, and negative behavior against women.
Response: So when the dominatrix female has her tied the man up, pours hot candle wax on his chest and whips him in the ass, what is that? Ethical porn?
Line: Porn is bad for youth to develop intimate relationships
Response: Intimate relationships start in the home. Why are you blaming porn? Maybe we have bad ideas about relationships and families. If porn ruined your marriage, your marriage must have sucked. If the so called family didn’t bother to teach, show, or tell what intimate relationships are, then that’s on them, not porn. Maybe not most sexual activity involves the boring sensual intimacy of a heterosexual couple?
I already challenged Yarrow on their narrow tunnel vision account of western views of sex. Reminding that sex belongs to all creatures high and low, races of people “modernized” or still ancient as before. That flippant line Yarrow spouted that any child who accesses sex images have been abused already frankly made me want to vomit I was so offended. It reeked of an ignorance that thought it was doing the right thing.
Once again placing blame on the media for kids behavior. Why is watching men blow up buildings, shoot each other in movies, strike heroes and heroines alike, this is ok for the youth?
Pornography has the whole spectrum of sexualities available, amateur and professional. Fat people, old people, young people, ugly people, cute people, hardcore, softcore, edu-taining, fat people, skinny people, average people, all races. Reading these articles betrayed a hatred for pornography. It was as if they needed the excuse of children to throw it under the bus for the populace.
Yarrow says kids aren’t normally supposed to see porn, even though we all know that they do anyway in some form or another. Yet also ignores the fact that society tells them it’s an 18 and over game and they are not invited to the party. ADULTS ONLY ADULTS ONLY.
So duh, of course. But how different would it be if youth were allowed to see it without filters and oversight. What if they made those decision on their own or with guidance if they liked it or not?
With these articles holding such an anti-porn stance it never spoke of any consequences such as LESS STDs if one masturbates to pornography keeping their body free from disease from other people that would come from sexual activity. Of course not.
The anti-sex “save the children” puritans know they are quickly losing ground and quickly losing excuses. Daily the evidence mounts more and more of youth sexually showing themselves off (without an adult being involved) on social media is not causing them to change their tune but ignore it and double down on the myth that kids want nothing to do with sexuality with others or themselves for that matter
Virpeds like Yarrow can and should speak their mind on non-offending bit of their cause but they can and should leave the youth watching porn audience out of it and not make gross accusations about their young sex lives based on nothing.
YARROW, HERE ARE SOME MIDDLE GROUND NEGOTIATIONS TO CONSIDER:
Should there be ‘responsible pornography’ or pornography curated specifically for youth viewing that only has loving non-violent sexual imagery?
[This article’s side note: Some interpret sex anything at young age as a soul killer. Once the youth has seen it, once they’ve been exposed to a penis, seen a tit, once they see porn, well it’s over. Innocence destroyed. Trauma forever. Victimus eternum. The kid will be lost and unhealthy forever and ever and likely will be a drug addict. Another kid lost to the sex devil.
Yeah, that’s what these people think.]